I am still very young, but I feel that I have learned quite a bit in recent years that I would like to share with you.
Not too many people are aware, but when I was a teen, I lost a sister. Now, she was only a baby, and maybe I wept more for the possibility of a lifelong best friend since I did not know her long, but it still saddened me deeply.
Why am I sharing this with you? Because at the time, I thought that was the end of my world, I was devastated. However, I soon came to realize that I had many “end of my world” moments in life since that time. I was devastated when I had to move from my home town in my last year of high school. I was saddened and thought I would never get anywhere in life when I didn’t get into my program on the first try. I couldn’t imagine ever playing volleyball again after losing a dear teammate. And I thought that my career path came to a blinding halt the moment I failed a midterm.
The point of all of this is that everyone has their own “end of my world moments”, everyone defines them differently; no matter how big or small they might seem to an outsider. It is not up to us to judge what constitutes sadness or stress in anyone else’s life but our own. We can have many of these moments in our lifetime, but news flash…. life keeps going!!!
We can get down and let these “end of my world” moments ruin us or we can use them as building tools to our future. To sound cliche: learn from your mistakes and sad moments and use them to make you stronger. Ask yourself, how can I use this moment right now to better myself as a whole?
Instead of being sad for forever and a day when my sister died, that was when I started coaching, I coached and mentored young girls in volleyball and at the Y. Not only did this help me heal after the loss of my sister, but it helped me to grow and realize that there are people right here, right now who need our help and there is something I can do to help them. When I moved from my hometown, yeah I was sad for a while, but then I decided to make the best of the situation and make as many friends as possible, now I have friends all over the country and the world that I cherish dearly.
So my message to you…… yes when those “end of my world” moments happen, no matter how small they might be, be sad, take time to heal and get better, but make the most of them. They can make you stronger, you can learn from them and grow from them. Keep looking on the upside of life, and don’t judge others just because you might think your situation is more devastating than theirs, everyone has their own threshold for pain and sadness, we do not get to decide how sad someone is allowed to be about them. Stay strong, stay kind, stay real.